My father always taught me that “नींद मनुष्य की सबसे बड़ी शत्रु है ” (English: Sleep is a man’s biggest enemy).
He would scold us for not waking up early every morning while we rushed to get ready for school. I hated that. I just wanted to get back under my blanket, put a pillow in between my knees and call it a day.
He would scold us for not waking up early every morning while we rushed to get ready for school. I hated that. I just wanted to get back under my blanket, put a pillow in between my knees and call it a day.
I adored sleeping. Not a single day has passed when I didn’t start yawning right after dinner. Even today.
By the time I was 8 years old — I had started venturing into the science and secrets of ‘power-naps’.
Oh my god.
This all started when one morning I asked my elder brother if he could freshen up first. Until that day, I’d never realized the karma of polite requesting. Being sweet to my brother gave me 20 minutes of extra sleep. I repeat — 20 minutes — at 6:30 am; Yes! That’s how much I was in love with my sleep.
But as I grew old it hit me that there is more to humans, their love of sleep, and the horrible feeling of getting up early morning.
You see, this scenario is quite similar to moving on from a relationship. I, for one, have avoided getting up early lot many times. I feel so have many of you.
Relationships, like you all know, are worth staying in for, right? Especially when it’s the winter season. Nothing compares to the warmth inside a blanket and/or the warmth of your loved one wrapped around your body. Who doesn’t want that? I’m sure a person misses their loved ones the most during these 2–3 months each year. This is one of the most underrated feelings ever, of course, apart from that extra 5-minute sleep some mornings 😊
But what happens when you have to wake up early in the morning? What happens when you have to move on from that relationship?
You see, this scenario is quite similar to moving on from a relationship. I, for one, have avoided getting up early lot many times. I feel so have many of you.
Relationships, like you all know, are worth staying in for, right? Especially when it’s the winter season. Nothing compares to the warmth inside a blanket and/or the warmth of your loved one wrapped around your body. Who doesn’t want that? I’m sure a person misses their loved ones the most during these 2–3 months each year. This is one of the most underrated feelings ever, of course, apart from that extra 5-minute sleep some mornings 😊
But what happens when you have to wake up early in the morning? What happens when you have to move on from that relationship?
What do you do when you realize it’s not good for your body and they’re not good for your mind? What does a person do when the only place and person they sleep with doesn’t want to be with them anymore?
That feeling of being sleep deprived, broken, depressed, the sweat-pants phaseetc. is a horrible state. I will not even try to express it in words.
You dread it.
You dread it.
You curse yourself.
You regret not spending more time together.
You regret overlooking the little things that mattered in the relationship.
You regret thanking your bladder for not disturbing you many nights.
You regret every extra useless hour spent on social media a night before.
You regret all the all-nighters you pulled for no genuine reason at all.
You understand the pain both of you are feeling and you tell yourself it’s going to be alright.
You keep telling yourself that it’s just a matter of a few more weeks.
It’ll be over soon. You’ll be a changed person.
You’ll start loving yourself again.
You curse yourself.
You miss them.
Getting back together wasn’t really a good idea either. You weren’t able to chase your dreams like you always wanted. You need to be constantly reminded you took that selfish decision for a reason. You chose to suffer for your own good and your partner’s too. You were not moving forward and you knew it.
Getting back together wasn’t really a good idea either. You weren’t able to chase your dreams like you always wanted. You need to be constantly reminded you took that selfish decision for a reason. You chose to suffer for your own good and your partner’s too. You were not moving forward and you knew it.
When it’s time, it’s time.
Not all things need to happen in steps and phases; some decisions need to be taken within a snap of the fingers. Remember, impromptu travel trips are the best. Whenever a person decides to go through their travel pictures, I guarantee that the first album they open will be some unplanned, out-of-the-blue trip they took with some friends.
Like any strong and determined person, you wake up early morning and decide to get your shit together. First, you fake it, then you own it.
You will soon have reasons (and not excuses) to keep yourself away from the bed. Countless unread messages and hundreds of missed calls won’t bring you back. You would have started using that extra pillow to cuddle.
You will soon have reasons (and not excuses) to keep yourself away from the bed. Countless unread messages and hundreds of missed calls won’t bring you back. You would have started using that extra pillow to cuddle.
But, of course, you are a simple human being — you will be vulnerable. A distraction alone is not going to help. We all need something to keep us going. Something that makes our mornings like the beautiful feeling it once used to be.
You look for a rebound. You try to latch your affection on somebody else, something else.
Coffee is your new-found love now.
Coffee is your new-found love now.
